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And start breaking some rules for a change

It doesn’t matter where you live or where you’re from, if you’re a woman, you’ve been taught to be a “Good Girl.” Everyone likes good girls. Good girls are nice. Good girls are loved. Good girls are respected. But what happens when you stop being a “Good Girl?”

princess girl 201x300 STOP BEING A GOOD GIRL %CategoryRecently, a family member told me she couldn’t do something she really wanted to do. I asked why. She said “because I need to be a good girl.” Curious, I asked “What does being a good girl mean to you?” She quickly gave me an endless list of what a good girl should and shouldn’t do.

“Oh my God!” I thought. A list of rules—and they read like an if-then statement. For example:

“If you aren’t a good girl…”

Then, people won’t love you
Then, people won’t take care of you
Then, no one will like you
Then, no one would want to be your friend
Then, you are a slut
Then, you are too easy
Then, no one will take you seriously
Then, you will bring shame to your family
Then, you won’t find a husband
Then, you are too loud

The list went on and on. And it was outrageous.

My family member never asked herself what she wanted. All her life, she was focused on pleasing everyone else. When you’re too busy pleasing others, it’s hard to know what you want. Why? Because for your entire life up until this point, your belief system has been influenced by your parents, your peers, your school, and your society. You never learned what you wanted because it was never an option.

If nothing in your current life mattered, if you could have it “your way,” what would you truly want? Think about it. The answer may surprise you.

I have studied the lives of many successful women over the years. I have read books about them and asked them questions about their personal and professional lives. I have always been intrigued by them—I wanted to know how they did it and what the secret to their success was. Each and every single successful woman had one common similarity with one another: they all reached a point in their lives (for some in their 20’s and for others in their 50’s) where they stopped caring what other people thought about them. They stopped focusing on how others wanted them to live their lives. These women were strong enough to go after what they truly wanted.

Because the moment in which you set yourself free, you can then help others do the same. The process can start small, at home. If you are free, your children will be free. Your children learn from example. If you’re free from limitations, from people’s expectations, and from that long list of shoulds and shouldn’ts, your children will be free too. Practice what you preach.

Michael Pastore once said, “It is better to follow the voice inside and be at war with the whole world than follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self.” Don’t hate your life. Start asking yourself “why am I doing this?” or “do I truly love what I’m doing with my life?”

Are you doing what you love? Or are you not doing something because you fear you won’t be loved, safe, or appreciated? Are you scared to “rock the boat” because people might not like you?

I really hope you can make a decision to stop with the shoulds and shouldn’ts. The “I can’ts” and the “no’s” and the “I don’t think I cans” are what keeps you from getting what you want out of life. The people who love you and care about you will be with you no matter how you decide to live your life. The people who deserve to be in your life will respect you and encourage you. Cut the negative people out—their opinions don’t matter.

When your vision and your voice are bigger and stronger than the voice on the outside, you will know you are on the way to mastering your own life.

Set yourself free and help others do the same. Tap into the infinite field of possibilities that are here for you in this world.

Stay tuned for an amazing line-up of women (and a fabulous man!) who will share their personal success stories with the world. They have inspired me and many others. Each one of these remarkable individuals have broken rules. They’ve tapped into their Influence Power and are ready to help you do the same.

Have a lovely day,

All my Love


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